Stefano Denna explained that the statement “That of the parent is the most difficult job in the world, when you grow up, you will notice …” is a phrase that his father always pronounced, just as many other parents did and do the same .
«Many other people like me have heard this when they were little. And it’s true. But you can train, “he said.
How to overcome the fears that follow the birth of a child?
«Very recent studies of genetics have shown how the fears and anxieties of the new mother influence the child and, even, the three following generations, also on a cellular level. So we must pay attention to the moods that we live as new parents daily , since there may be consequences that are not immediately visible.
In general, one must learn to become aware of one’s emotions . By being overwhelmed by fear, you only gain access to 2 percent of your potential. Instead it is essential to draw on one’s resources through language or through a possible change of attitude or with very specific techniques. It is necessary to exit the state of fear and enter a condition of calm and tranquility in order to make the less wrong choices.
It is also important to learn how to manage stress , which occurs especially when we enter a “survival” state. Faced with difficulties, flight, aggression or impotence occur. In that case, if there is no change of attitude, you risk being ineffective.
I repeat that the awareness of one’s emotions is fundamental , which do not come from the outside, but are the result of internal mechanisms related to how we talk to each other, to the questions we ask ourselves at a given moment and how we use more or less consciously strategies that allow consequent changes of moods », clarified Stefano Denna.
Teenage children, how to behave?
«We live in the world of symptom care: if I have a headache, I take the pill, etc. Instead, there are no concrete and definitive solutions to problems posed by teenage children . In my opinion, one does not suddenly become adolescents, but the process of growth and, consequently, of education, has continued since the boy was born. It all depends on the work done consciously by parents with children.
Values and teachings must be transmitted even when the children are very young through, for example, fairy tales, games, aware messages. In my opinion it is impossible for a child to suddenly change, proving problematic. A parent coach, like a coach who trains his team for the following season starting long before, knows that the education of the child is a very long process and therefore he prepares himself well from the beginning ».